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Self-Care Isn't Selfish
In just a few short years, your parenting will be on display as your teen steps into the workplace. At the same time, as a leader, you’re already managing other people’s teens as they join your team. It’s a unique pressure and without the right strategies, it’s easy to become part of the problem rather than part of the solution.
This book introduces three powerful self‑care strategies you may not have come across before. They’re simple, practical, and designed to help you keep your own self-care front and centre.
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Position yourself so you don’t get pulled into unnecessary conflict
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Understand control — what you can influence and what you can’t
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Use reflection to reset, refocus, and respond rather than react
Self‑care isn’t selfish. It’s essential.
This book is for you if you’re on a leadership journey — especially if you’re leading teams at work and teenagers at home. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and the time to strengthen your self‑care toolkit is now.
Inside, I share the models I’ve used for years, along with stories from my own experiences supporting leaders, parents, and young people.
You’ll explore practical, real‑world tools including:
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How to play team GAMES — a simple model for understanding group behaviour
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The IT scale — a way to recognise what’s really driving reactions
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Choosing your role in the drama — stepping out of unhelpful patterns
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Having NICE conversations — staying calm, clear, and connected
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TALK more — a framework for communication that actually works
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Focusing your energy on what you can control
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Self‑care sanctioning — giving yourself permission to rest and reset
…and so much more.
Published: 2026
Page count: 276
Language: English
Available: From all Amazon suppliers
$28 plus postage for those in New Zealand, contact the Author to arrange
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“A heart-warming and practical guide for new and would-be parents. Ruth takes the reader on her own personal journey of parenthood, sharing her experiences in a helpful, honest, reassuring and down to earth manner, to which all parents can relate. Intermingled with humour and insight Ruth shares her practical tips and experience on parenting, and her family's approach and response to the daily realities of parenthood. Can't wait for the next one.” A Houlihan